“The Second Shift”

These days it is not uncommon for women to be very active in the workforce along with being an involved wife and loving mother. Sociologist Arlie Hochschild researched this cultural change and noted that women are taking on a “second shift.” This means that not only are women thriving in the workplace, they typically also remain keeping the duties of cleaning the house and caring for children. This is interesting to me, because women are taking responsibilities at work and then coming back home and completing all the responsibilities that will always be there to fulfill. In addition, men can experience their own “second shift.” It all depends on how much responsibility you are choosing to have. So, what does this mean? These are answers that are specific to the individual and will work out differently for everyone's personal situation. They are not meant to be judgments, but a unique choice for each person. However, there is a message here that applies to everyone, males and females. I feel we need to examine how much we are taking on in our lives. How much we are putting on our plate and what is really important to benefit our walk with God.

This reminds me of the story of Mary and Martha. In Luke Chapter 10, Jesus and his disciples arrive at the home of Martha and are welcomed in by her. Martha's sister Mary, who was also in the home, sat at the Lord's feet and listened to what he said (v.39). “But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord don't you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!” “Martha, Martha, the Lord answered, you are worried and upset about many things but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her (v. 40-42).”

Martha's intentions were nothing but of good intent. She is known for having a servant heart. I can identify with Martha at times when I often find myself saying yes to everyone who may ask for help, or volunteering my time when I know I do not have any more time to spare. Instead, I feel it is most valuable to me when I step back and ask God in what areas should I be serving and when and where should I do it. I feel Mary provides a good balance to Martha. She demonstrates the example of waiting and listening to the teachings of our Lord. I do not feel we need to look at this passage and believe that Martha had it all wrong. Her heart was in the right place, but it seems she was trying to accomplish too much at one time. When we look at the intentions of Martha along with the patience of Mary, I think it demonstrates a good balance and motivation to continue to work for the Lord. The work from God's timing and direction that He can provide.

I feel that throughout our lives we will always have this predicament with time. It is to our benefit when we keep assessing our lives and look to God's guidance. God yearns for our best and hopes that when we serve Him, we are genuine and are seeking Him wholeheartedly. “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not men (Colossians 3:23).”