"Perfectly Woven"

My best friend is expecting her first child, a baby boy, in the spring. She shared some digital photos of the baby from the ultrasound. It was beautiful to see all the intricacies of this little unborn child. His hands, feet, fingers, toes, face and cute little nose were all visible in the photo. God is designing this precious creation, and I saw a view inside His masterpiece.

God has created each one of us in a particular and unique way. It is amazing to think about how much time we put into figuring out what is wrong with us and what we want to change, when God put so much time into creating each line, shape, and form with an exact purpose. Psalm 139 depicts a vivid illustration of us being portrayed as God’s design.

“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. How precious to me are your thoughts, O God! How vast is the sum of them! Were I to count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand. When I awake, I am still with you (Psalm 139: 13-18).”

Like a needle sewing thread, God has specifically designed us as His beautiful work of art. He knows every hair on our head and thought on our minds. When I saw this picture of the unborn child, it reminded me that God is with us from the day of conception and is already hard at work. No matter how many flaws or disappointments we tend to always find in ourselves, they weren’t seen as that to God. We are beautiful to Him, and we should feel complete and worthy to come from His creation.

“Yet, O LORD, you are our Father. We are the clay, you are the potter; we are all the work of your hand (Isaiah 64:8).”

"Alive with Works"

It was eight o’clock at night and I started up my car to drive home from my grandmother’s house. I looked beside me in the passenger’s seat and saw her laundry basket filled of dirty clothes. It was filled with socks, nightgowns and robes. I normally do not like to look at laundry. In fact, it’s typical that I will dread doing the laundry just like most people will feel. However, for some reason, I became emotional while looking at this basket of laundry. This basket reminded me of how much I enjoyed doing this work for my grandmother. I am actually excited to do her laundry whenever I get the chance. As strange as it sounds, I look forward to gathering up her clothes, making them nice and clean, and returning them to her with a clean fresh scent.

This experience really helped me understand the concept of works and how it is important in our relationship with God. We should not do works, because we feel like we have to in order to earn our salvation. It is written, “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith- and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God- not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do (Ephesians 2:8-10).” We are not saved with works, but we have been made to work for Him. As believers, we are working for Him out of love. We do not need to live in fear as we wonder if we have earned God’s love and have done enough to be saved. Works are a way that we can show our love to God and strengthen our relationship with Him.

As a child, I was not able to see my grandmother as frequently as I am able to now. I am blessed to see her because I live close to her and will schedule the time to make a visit. My grandmother is touched when I am able to help her and do her chores. However, this does not make her love me any more than she did before. I believe my grandmother loved me before I began to help her. The important thing to gather is that it has strengthened my relationship with her. I know that I do not have to do a single thing to earn her love. Although, I cannot help but do these things for her because I know that it shows her that I care and keeps our relationship alive. James 2:26 tells us, “As the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without deeds is dead.” If we want our faith to grow and our relationship with God to be healthy, we need to keep it going and bring it to life. I truly feel that this is what God yearns from us. He wants us to understand His indescribable love. How will you keep your faith from fading?

"Calm the Storm"

Imagine you are riding in a small boat. Waves are tossing and turning around you. The boat rocks you up and down. Lightning strikes and heavy amounts of water come crashing into the boat. You are drenched. The waves do not seem to settle down. You panic and yell, “Please help me!” This is how the apostles felt when they were riding along the Sea of Galilee in a boat that experienced much turmoil along their journey.

I love to use guided imagery when I am studying scripture. When I use this technique, I close my eyes and try to visualize each verse from the passage. Finding imagery in Mark 4: 35-41 depicts how powerful and protective our Savior can be. To see his power, it is beneficial to compare the description of the sea with the description of Jesus. The sea is characterized as being “furious” and its “waves breaking over the boat (4:37).” Jesus is riding in this very boat. By judging his behavior, it is evident that he can conquer the storm. He is described as “sleeping on a cushion” in a boat that is swamped (4:38). Jesus has power over the storm, because he does not allow it to phase him. Furthermore, he actually calms it by his authority. After the apostles wake him, Jesus rises and says “Quiet! Be still (4:39)!” The apostles are left amazed.

As I visualize this passage, I am reminded that there is nothing on earth that Jesus has not conquered. He has overcome the world. Also, it inspires me to be strong and steady just like him in a scary situation. We may not have the power to calm nature, but we can learn from his example to be still in our own “storms.” In our world that currently seems to be filled with bad news, there are many opportunities to witness to others as we choose to stay calm.

I close my eyes and imagine myself holding onto Jesus in that rocky boat. He is soundly sleeping and his heart is at an even rate. He is not stirred or shaken. The closer we feel to Jesus, I think the closer we become to growing in his likeness. I want to have that part of him in my life. The part that calms me down and allows me to feel the power and love of Jesus no matter what surrounds me in life.

"Jealous God"

My father, better known as “Daddy,” always encouraged me and invested his time in me. We have always been very close and rarely there is a day that goes by that I do not talk on the phone with him. Since he lives several hours away, it is important that I keep in contact. At times he wishes he could spend more time out here and I am sure he can get jealous when he hears about fun activities that are going on with me or the family. When I think about these times, it helps me to remember that my heavenly father is certainly a jealous God. “Jealous” in the context of our time and love.

God has created us for himself and to have us in relationship with him. When we allow time with Him to slip away from us, He naturally can become jealous. “You shall not make for yourself an idol in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below. You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I the LORD your God, am a jealous God (Exodus 20:4-5).” I think it is important to look at our parent child relationship with God. “Now we are children of God and what we will be has not yet been made known (1 John 3:2).” God hopes to spend time with us, because he is using every minute to form us into the creation He is planning us to be. It is really to our disadvantage when we feel that investing our time into things of the world will fulfill our needs.

My Dad is grateful that I have family, friends and hobbies that I enjoy. However, we both know that our relationship plays a big part in both of our lives. My Dad has instilled morals in me and has given me courage to believe that I am a confident and valuable person. This is the gift that God yearns to give us. He wants to mold us into His masterpiece. Remembering this, helps to remind me that spending time with Him should be a priority. I want to strive to have more than just a morning quiet time. I want to pray to Him throughout the day, wait in silence and always let Him know that I love Him.

He is my Father, He is my God. He deserves my time...He deserves ALL of me!

"Bad Knight, Good Knight"

A group of children used their imaginations to brainstorm about something they could draw on their blank piece of white paper. A boy came up to my desk and asked if he could show me his drawing. He drew a knight with full armor and weapons in hand. I explained, “I really like this drawing, but I will have to ask you to take away his weapons because it is against the rules to draw them.” He understood and came back with a new drawing. He drew another knight with armor, but this time he had no weapons. Instead, he wrote the word “knowledge” at the top of the page. The boy told me that this was his weapon. He said, “This is a good knight.”

After seeing this knight dressed in armor, I could not help but think of the armor of God that we are called to put on as believers in Christ. Ephesians 6 tells us, “Therefore, put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. Take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God (v. 13-18).”

I think it is easy for us to use the illustration of the armor as a way to automatically cover ourselves up. We may fall into a trap if we focus just on the armor and feel we must be strong and brave at all times. I have gathered that focusing on what we want to cover up is just as important as the parts we use to cover them.

It is when we recognize our weakness that we can believe that there is something far greater that can strengthen us. When we are broken, we are longed to be mended. Paul provides a fitting example in 2 Corinthians chapter 12. “Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ's sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong (v. 9-10).”

If we are too quick to put on the armor without even recognizing why we need it, we may find ourselves pretending. I feel God wants us to recognize that we are nothing apart from Christ. It is then, that each piece of armor will make sense. We will know that we are replacing our weakness with something stronger.

“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9).”

“The Second Shift”

These days it is not uncommon for women to be very active in the workforce along with being an involved wife and loving mother. Sociologist Arlie Hochschild researched this cultural change and noted that women are taking on a “second shift.” This means that not only are women thriving in the workplace, they typically also remain keeping the duties of cleaning the house and caring for children. This is interesting to me, because women are taking responsibilities at work and then coming back home and completing all the responsibilities that will always be there to fulfill. In addition, men can experience their own “second shift.” It all depends on how much responsibility you are choosing to have. So, what does this mean? These are answers that are specific to the individual and will work out differently for everyone's personal situation. They are not meant to be judgments, but a unique choice for each person. However, there is a message here that applies to everyone, males and females. I feel we need to examine how much we are taking on in our lives. How much we are putting on our plate and what is really important to benefit our walk with God.

This reminds me of the story of Mary and Martha. In Luke Chapter 10, Jesus and his disciples arrive at the home of Martha and are welcomed in by her. Martha's sister Mary, who was also in the home, sat at the Lord's feet and listened to what he said (v.39). “But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord don't you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!” “Martha, Martha, the Lord answered, you are worried and upset about many things but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her (v. 40-42).”

Martha's intentions were nothing but of good intent. She is known for having a servant heart. I can identify with Martha at times when I often find myself saying yes to everyone who may ask for help, or volunteering my time when I know I do not have any more time to spare. Instead, I feel it is most valuable to me when I step back and ask God in what areas should I be serving and when and where should I do it. I feel Mary provides a good balance to Martha. She demonstrates the example of waiting and listening to the teachings of our Lord. I do not feel we need to look at this passage and believe that Martha had it all wrong. Her heart was in the right place, but it seems she was trying to accomplish too much at one time. When we look at the intentions of Martha along with the patience of Mary, I think it demonstrates a good balance and motivation to continue to work for the Lord. The work from God's timing and direction that He can provide.

I feel that throughout our lives we will always have this predicament with time. It is to our benefit when we keep assessing our lives and look to God's guidance. God yearns for our best and hopes that when we serve Him, we are genuine and are seeking Him wholeheartedly. “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not men (Colossians 3:23).”

"Free From Enemies"

One of the great pleasures of working with children is that I often find myself learning from them. I believe that studying and interacting with children has had a huge influence in my development as a believer. Jesus instructs us, “Unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven (Matthew 18:3).”

Recently, I have been intrigued by the way children handle conflict. I have been noticing that children can be easily upset. When things are taken away or when they do not get their way, they are so quick to verbalize their feelings. Some of my favorites are: “You're not my best friend anymore, I'm telling on you, and by far my favorite one is...”You're not coming to my birthday party!” These phrases are harsh and normally leave the child in tears. However, I have also noticed that children are quick to forgive. After a fight, a short period of time will pass, and suddenly it is as if the argument never happened. By some means it is resolved and children can go back to being best friends and be invited over to each other's houses all in the same day. Now we are left wondering...how do they do that?

Jesus encourages us to love our enemies. Matthew 8:44 tells us, “But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven.” It is easy to love those who love us. Jesus emphasizes that even tax collectors and pagans do that (v. 46). Thus, the challenge is to go beyond that and show love to those who have persecuted us.

By no means should we refrain from standing up for ourselves. It is written that “All scripture is God breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness
(2 Timothy 3:16).” Although, if we prevent ourselves from pouring out all forgiveness for those in our lives, we are missing out on the challenge. Understanding forgiveness is apart of our completion as a believer (Matthew 8:48). “For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins (Matthew 6:14-15).”

Two of the boys that I work with have been given labels by their peers. One is known as the “bad kid” and the other is known as the “slow kid.” The “bad kid” has used so many hurtful words to the “slow kid;” phrases that have damaged his self-esteem and has made it difficult for him to learn. However, one day, I witnessed the “slow kid” come up to the “bad kid” and help him with an assignment. He offered up his forgiveness and helped him complete his work. There were no negative words or reminders about the past. The two children played together for the rest of the day. This is freedom. A freedom from enemies. The freedom to forgive.

"Hear the Silence"

During a prayer meeting, our group decided to explore the practice of training ourselves to be silent. We all failed in the past on our own, but we decided to use our time as a group to experiment with using an opportunity to be still before the LORD. We wanted to see how this would strengthen our prayers and our connection as a group. Silence is important, because there is so much that can be revealed in that time. “Be still and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in all the earth (Psalm 46:10).”

We dimmed the lights, closed our eyes and became silent. Few words were spoken in prayer. I became very aware of my senses. I listened to the cars outside, which made me think of all the people we come in contact with on a daily basis. People who could hear the Word. I also saw a lot of imagery. It is very appropriate to visualize verses in the Bible. When I was silent, I was able to see an image with Psalm 61:1-4, “Hear my cry, O God; listen to my prayer. From the ends of the earth I call to you, I call as my heart grows faint; lead me to the rock that is higher than I. For you have been my refuge, a strong tower against the foe. I long to dwell in your tent forever and take refuge in the shelter of your wings.” I could visualize being cradled by my Creator. I often try to feel this, and when we were silent, this image became more apparent to me.

As we were silent, my mind surprisingly did not wander. In the past when I have tried this, my mind would jump to things I had to do that day or fixate on pointless worries. This time was different, and I feel very strongly that power lies in numbers. Being united in a group, created a support to help us individually seek the silence. This allowed our group to find a more personal meaning to the verse, “For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them (Matthew 18:20).”

As I drove home that night, I felt renewed. I reached for the radio to turn up the volume in the car, but instead I ended up turning it off. I decided to drive home in silence, because I wanted to carry on that beautiful feeling that we had just experienced. Practicing silence can be a challenge, but using the support from others can make it attainable and easier to accomplish on our own. “Let all the earth be silent before him (Habakkuk 2:20).”

"Beat the Self-Defeat"

I have the pleasure of working with a boy who is labeled as anxious and socially withdrawn. He gets angered easily and usually has no desire to socialize with his peers. The boy would rather kick a ball alone than play a game with other children. Sometimes one can say something to him that is taken the wrong way, resulting with an inability to regulate his emotions. However, one day, I witnessed him conquer those labels that often hold him back. He asked if he could read a story aloud. He did not panic or give up. The boy stood in front of all his peers and confidently read an entire book.

This inspires me to focus on the passage from Romans 8, “In all these things we are more than conquerers through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus (v. 37-39).”

What are the labels that hold us back? As imperfect people, we tend to focus on our flaws and play the sympathy game. People call themselves awful names and cut themselves down until they loose all confidence. We have a way of listening to thoughts in the back of our mind that tell us we are not good enough. God knows that we will fall into this trap and wants us to be protected from the negative cycle that we get ourselves into. Romans 8:28 states, “ And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. What then shall we say in response to this? If God is for us, who can be against us (v. 31)?” We are not meant to be ruled by our emotions, but be able to conquer and overcome them because God is on our side.

You may be wondering if I believe that God's spirit was working through this little boy. I don't know that for certain. However, I do believe that witnessing this interaction allowed me to be reminded of the power of God's love, and the confidence that He has in us. The confidence that encourages us to conquer any challenge that we are given in this lifetime. I am reminded of the promise of God's unconditional love and support that is freely given to His children.

"The Secret"

A prisoner ministered to a proselyte of Judaism which brought her to conversion along with the rest of her household. He also helped out a slave girl. His ministry caused him time with the magistrates where he was beaten with rods and taken to prison. This prisoner was known as the Apostle Paul. Everything was at stake for him. Paul was preaching a religion that was considered illegal to the Romans, and he was sent to jail because of it. However, Paul is the ideal example of finding contentment regardless of the situation.

There is a psychological principle known as cognitive behavioral thinking. It states that one can change the way they behave if they change their thinking pattern. This is seen in biblical context, especially when Paul instructs us to accept our circumstances.

Philippians 4 states, “ I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength (v. 12-13).” When Paul was sent to prison, it would be easy to think that his ministry would be over. However, Paul uses his mind and behavior to continue to glorify God.

Many of us have been placed in situations where it is hard to minister to others. Some of us have family members that do not want to hear the gospel. Others have work environments that are not conducive to sharing the message. Despite these circumstances, Paul has urged us that we can still minister to others through our mind and actions.

Romans 12:2 explains, “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is- his good and pleasing and perfect will.” If we learn to put our mind over the matter, we will grasp “the secret.” Just because we may be in a difficult circumstance or a situation where we are not allowed to share our faith, our behavior can still show our belief. I can't help but hear the words to the chorus, “They'll know we are Christians by our love, by our love. Yes they'll know we are Christians by our love.”When we place our mind over the obstacle, our behavior becomes our voice. The voice that shows others the love of Christ.

"Empty Your Tomb"

We entered the chapel behind the sanctuary which was transformed into the empty tomb. Walls resembling stone surrounded us and white linens remained with a bright light cascading upon them. I approached the communion table that was placed inside, and shed a tear as I took the emblems. Our congregation had the privilege of experiencing a visual reenactment after Jesus rose from the dead.

“But when they looked up, they saw that the stone, which was very large, had been rolled away. As they entered the tomb, they saw a young man dressed in a white robe sitting on the right side and they were alarmed. Don't be alarmed, he said. You are looking for Jesus the Nazarene, who was crucified. He has risen (Mark 16:4-6)!”

When Jesus died on the cross and rose from the dead, he had his life on earth taken away. When I looked at the white linens that were used in the tomb, it made me think of what he left. Jesus, the Messiah, had many things taken away from him. He left his friends (the disciples), the people he had healed, and those who he ministered. However, Christ emptied himself to follow his father's plan. This places even more significance on his teaching: “If anyone come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me and for the gospel will save it (Mark 8:34-35).”

As I reminisce about this Easter service, I realize that three years have past. Things seem to be worse than they were then. I have never experienced a time in my life where I have heard so much about families struggling, having fear for our jobs, and worried about peace among nations. It forces me to think about how my life changes from year to year and to recognize the things that are taken away. It also allows me to realize how God has worked in those situations. What have you lost in your lifetime? What has been taken away from you that has left you confused or heartbroken? Remember that Jesus had his life taken from him, but received the ultimate blessing in return. As believers we are urged to remain encouraged. “ And we know that God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose (Romans 8:28).”

"Call Me a Friend"

“What a friend we have in Jesus, all our sins and griefs to bear! What a privilege to carry everything to God in prayer (What a Friend We Have in Jesus Hymn #279).”

Our oldest and closest friends are the sweet treasures of life. Mine goes back to eight years of age. We did what all friends should do: had sleepovers, dressed alike, played games, and talked on the phone until our parents told us to hang up.

Peer relationships are said to have as much, or in some stages of life, more influence than family or any other type of relationship. Jesus serves many roles to us as believers. An important and intimate role he plays, is a close friend. He proclaims, “I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master's business. Instead, I have called you friends (John 15:15).”

Through friendships, you have each other to experience similar joys and trials. We essentially have someone to walk through this scary world called life. Jesus yearns for us to seek his counsel. He has experienced hardship and temptation, like we do on a daily basis. “Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has gone through the heavens, Jesus the son of God, let us hold firmly to the faith we profess. For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way just as we are- yet without sin. Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need (Hebrews 4:14-16).” There is no better life to emulate. Friends often act the same and make similar choices. Jesus hopes that we will live by his example.

At the beginning of my adult life, my family was presented with a challenge. I remember talking to my best friend on the phone, and she offered to come and comfort me when it was very late into the night. I have never felt more love from a friend in my entire life. This is beyond friendship. This reminds me of the type of relationship that our Savior and friend has laid before us. Jesus has offered his love. He has offered his guidance. “Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends (John 15:13).”

"Walk this Way"

When I was growing up, my mom used to walk me to school every morning and pick me up in the afternoon. I only lived a block away from my elementary school, but when I was young it was a scary thing to walk to class on my own. By myself I could have encountered “stranger danger.” Or, I could have been tempted to walk in the street or be tardy for class. My mom knew of all these things, so she faithfully walked me to school until she knew I was ready to walk alone.

We often hear people use the phrase, “God will not give us anything we can't handle.” This is referring to the encouraging passage in 1 Corinthians 10:13 which states, “No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.” It is probably safe to say that many of us have faced trials in our lives that have seemed overwhelming. We have questioned God if this is something that we are supposed to be able to handle.

Jesus also struggled with temptation and he sought God's guidance as a way to stand up to it. Luke 22 depicts Jesus at the Mount of Olives with his disciples. He instructed them, “Pray that you will not fall into temptation (Luke 22:40).” Jesus demonstrates the example of what we should do so we do not fall. He knelt down and prayed, “Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will but yours be done. An angel from heaven appeared to him and strengthened him. And being in anguish, he prayed more earnestly, and his sweat was like drops of blood falling to the ground (Luke 22:43-44).”

When I think about the memory of my mother walking me to school, I see the illustration of God's protection. He holds our hand as we walk this scary world, but yearns to see the day when we are able to stand up to it on our own. When I walked alone to school, I was able to meet the challenge because my mother had guided me. Just as prayer is God's guidance. What trial can you earnestly pray about, so God can strengthen you and watch you stand up to it?

"Deserving Discipline"

Sitting in a corner, loosing our favorite toy, being grounded and having a curfew. These are familiar stages of the “dreaded discipline” that many of us experienced as a child. It is what we grew up with, and it is what we did not always seem to understand.

However, some children do not have the privilege of receiving discipline. Permissive parenting happens to many children, and the effects are damaging. Inconsistent rules, neglect, enabling behaviors and even abuse are taking place at this very moment. Unfortunately, these children typically grow up with no concept of authority and no appreciation for rules or boundaries.

When we receive discipline, it means that someone wants to invest their time into us for our own good. Our Heavenly Father, the Holy and Mighty One, has created an intimate parent-child relationship from the beginning of time. “My son, do not make light of the Lord's discipline, and do not lose heart when he rebukes you, because the Lord disciplines those he loves, and He punishes everyone He accepts as a son (Hebrews 12: 5-6).” The LORD wants to discipline His children, because He will not let us be neglected. He will not be disengaged. Our Father wants to shield us from the world and provide us with the love and knowledge to make good choices that will better our lives.

It is heart breaking to see children that are wrapped in confusion. They fend for themselves and do not know the difference between right and wrong. They have not grasped that correction can come from compassion. God does not want us to experience this inconsistency. He has said, “Never will I leave you, never will I forsake you (Hebrews 13:5).”

“No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it (Hebrews 12:11).” How does it make you feel to know that our great big God takes time each day to mold us into His precious creation? How does He correct you? How does He show His love to you on a daily basis? Believe in your heart that you deserve His discipline.

"Build it Up"

Numbers are big, scary and have always had the power to overtake me in a way that gives me the creeps! At least that was how I felt when I was eleven years old. I was in the fifth grade, and my teacher gave out an assignment that involved writing out all the multiples of the numbers one through twenty. She gave us a sheet of graph paper and told us to bring it in the next day.


I was confused with how I would possibly be able to finish this assignment on my own. Luckily, my older brother has always been advanced in math. He offered to help me finish it. My brother did not focus on my fear of numbers, but on the fun that we would have working together on a project. He encouraged me with my persistence, and told me that I could complete it. Ephesians 4:29 explains, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. My brother could have refused to help me. Or worse, criticized me for not understanding the assignment. However, he made me feel like a hard worker for sticking with the challenge.


When he guided me through the assignment, I did not become an expert in math. In fact, I have accepted that I will probably never become one. However, I gained valuable skills while I received his teaching. I understood patience as I dealt with a very scary thing for me. “We have different gifts according to the grace given us (Romans 12:6).” So, it is normal to have difficulty in the areas that we are not gifted. As believers, we will not possess every spiritual gift (Romans 12: 6-8). Although, we are called to understand the different facets of the Spirit, in which we live. Galatians 5:22 states, “ But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.”


With my brother's help, I listed all the multiples up to the number twenty. He told me that he believed we could go further and write out all the multiples up to the number ninety-nine, which would fill up the entire sheet of graph paper. His encouragement, along with my persistence, allowed me to go beyond the expectation of the assignment. What is your struggle? Have you accepted your need in this area? Which fruit can be fulfilled? I realize now that it is okay if I am not an expert in math, but am thankful that I gained the fruit of patience through my challenge.

"His First Love"

Every year on the Sunday before Valentine's Day, my Grammy Huffer would take out a little box from her purse that was filled with candy conversation hearts. The little ones that come in various colors, and have words written on them. I loved to read all the different phrases that were on the hearts. These were a special treat that she gave me, that grew into a tradition. It was a gesture that made me feel appreciated. This was a gift of love.

Likewise, God has a heart for us that overflows with unconditional love. He has chosen to give us the greatest expression of love that is absolutely immeasurable. “This is how God showed His love among us: He sent His one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins (1 John 4: 9-10).”

Even though we know this, it still seems inevitable to focus on the individuals who have difficulty accepting us. It is natural to feel rejected, persecuted, and struck down. However, the key to overcoming this is through love. “No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us (1 John 4:12).” Loving others allows them to experience God's love and to better understand it ourselves.

I loved my Grammy very much, because she first loved me. This is how God loves us. He first loved us as His children. What words do you think God has written on your heart? Maybe it reads... accepted, chosen, creation, masterpiece, bold, forgiven. God will always have something to put on our heart. Remember this: “God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in him (1 John 4:16).” Go ahead and take a look. What does your heart say?

"The White Rose"

It was a bright and sunny June day. I stood in front of the congregation along with the other graduates. The elders gave us two roses. One was yellow and one was white. They told us to keep the yellow one and give the white rose to someone who has helped us throughout our lives. The elders instructed us to do this, because they wanted us to acknowledge the power of an influence.

1 Timothy 4:11 creates an ideal example. The Apostle Paul mentored Timothy in order to further his ministry. Paul felt led to instruct Timothy with meaningful exhortation. “Command and teach these things. Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity.” Paul did not want age or other obstacles to impede Timothy's progress. He believed in him, and knew that Timothy could be successful in his ministry.

Paul passed on his wisdom to Timothy, because he wanted it to benefit the body of Christ. “I am writing you these instructions so that, if I am delayed, you will know how people should conduct themselves in God's household, which is the church of the living God, the pillar and foundation of truth (1 Timothy 3:14-16).” Paul encouraged Timothy to use his gifts, because his teaching would benefit himself and those who would come after him.

I held my white rose and walked down the aisle. I approached my elementary Sunday school teacher who is also the mother of my best friend. I gave her my rose. Tearing up she asked, “You're giving me your rose?” I said, “Of course. You helped raise me.” A teacher, mentor, supporter and encourager.

Who is your Timothy? Have someone in mind that you can share your wisdom and encourage to carry on your legacy. I want to cherish the knowledge I have been given, and pass it on to the next generation.

"The Soda Effect"

A fellow social worker introduced the phrase, “The Soda Effect.” All of us are like a bottle of soda. Pick any kind you would like to be. We all have times that we are shaken up and tossed around, which can ruin our attitude. If our fizz overwhelms us, we can create a mess which is difficult to recover.

We come in contact with circumstances, which create a challenge to regulate our emotions. Someone says the wrong thing to us at the wrong time, stress piles up, and there is never enough time in one day. Everyone is bound to get shaken at some point, but how do we stand firm without letting our stress overcome us?

Jesus overcame the greatest circumstance imaginable; death on a cross. Matthew 27 depicts the mockery of Jesus as he approached the crucifixion. “They stripped him and put a scarlet robe on him, and then twisted together a crown of thorns and set it on his head. They put a staff in his right hand and knelt in front of him and mocked him. Hail king of the Jews! They spit on him, and took the staff and struck him on the head again and again (v. 28-30).”

Notice that Jesus did not fight back to the hatred that he received. Rather, he withstood the mockery. He took control of his emotions by keeping the bigger picture in mind. Jesus knew that he would be taken to die, and that it was part of a greater plan for him to be raised on the third day (Matthew 20:19). He held onto his hope.

Despite the circumstances of our lives, we will always have a reason to press on. “Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see (Hebrews 11:1).” Stress overcomes us. We start to fizz and feel we are going to explode. It is easy to miss what lies ahead. However, when we keep our eyes focused on our hope, we will be reminded of what is in store for us. “No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has conceived what God has prepared for those who love Him
(1 Corinthians 2:9).”

"To Serve and be Served" by: Kara Taylor and Keith Huffer

After Christmas this year, my husband and I traveled to California to visit family members. Little did we know that we would meet a homeless man who would teach us a valuable lesson. The man sought shelter off a busy street in Los Angeles after dark in an unlit alcove which could deflect the cold wind. He was lying on his side crunched up from the chill, covered by a thin blanket that barely disguised his body from passing cars. He was willing to sleep there, exposed to strangers who might happen to walk by at all hours of the night, and then leave at sunrise before the business owner would arrive.

We felt bad for the man, but walked into the warm house. Our family sat down to a homemade turkey soup dinner, which hit the spot on a cold winter day. However, we could not stop thinking about the man that was outside. My husband asked, “Should we take him something?” My dad, taking initiative, found a plastic bowl and filled it with a generous portion of soup. We were hesitant, but went outside to offer it to the man along with a warm blanket. The man was embarrassed. He hid his face and kept shaking his head. We insisted upon our gesture and left the bowl by his side, and covered him with the blanket. He appeared to be grateful, revealing only his eyes.

As we walked back to the house, I realized that it is difficult to accept someone's service. We have always been encouraged to “Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not men (Ephesians 6:7).” This is true, but it is also important to receive someone else's service. Often times, I find myself telling others, “Oh you don't have to do that for me...I will do it....I don't want you to go to the trouble.” Sound familiar?

When we turn down someone's service, we are not respecting ourselves or others. Allowing someone to serve you, encourages them to experience the work of Jesus. Moreover, accepting someone's service enables you to care for yourself.

Take note of the frequently quoted verse, “Love your neighbor as yourself (Leviticus 19:18).” When it's broken apart, you can see “love yourself.” This means that it is important to be attentive to ourselves, so we can better serve and love others.

When I approached the homeless man, I thought I would be scared and have nothing in common with him. I was wrong. I identified with him. It is easy to feel uncomfortable with someone serving us. However, we should confidently accept someone's offer with gratitude. All of us are working toward a common goal.“It is the Lord Christ you are serving (Colossians 3:24).”

"What's in Your Kitchen Sink?"

One of the many things that I admire about my husband is that he is a very clean person. He stays on top of cleaning the house, and especially the kitchen. Looking at the bottom of a clean, shiny sink is always a good feeling. This encourages me to clean the dishes right away rather than putting them off. Discussing this makes me think of the term, “kitchen sink communication.” Individuals will store up all their emotions (just like dirty dishes in a sink) and pile it on someone all at once. I'm sure we have all caught ourselves doing this at one time or another. People could wait days, months or even years to disclose information. However, it is better to refrain from this, and release our emotions in the moment to express how we are feeling. Just as it is better to do the dishes, instead of waiting for them to clean themselves.

I find that it is easy to “kitchen sink communicate” with God. Often times, we wait and wait until we are ashamed of our behavior or sin to come and confess to Him.“ I confess my iniquity; I am troubled by my sin (Psalm 38:18).” We release it all at once, and find ourselves feeling somewhat better. Although, what does this do to our relationship with God?

When we procrastinate with expressing our emotions to God, we miss out on the spiritual healing that He wants us to experience in that point in time. James 5 instructs us to “confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.” It is inevitable that we will sin. I John 1:8-10 states, “If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and the word has no place in our lives.”

Our Father knows we will sin, but how we handle it is our choice. Confession should not evoke feelings of guilt, obligation or routine. Rather, it can be seen as a positive way to communicate with God and maintain a healthy relationship.